Tuesday, March 17, 2020

A birthday some dilemmas, and a puzzle




Today is my baby daughter’s birthday—Jordan, the youngest of my four. I won’t tell you how old she is because she’s a mite touchy about that, but I will say that it’s not a decade-changing birthday but still one that she considers significant. I cannot believe my kids are as old as they are.

Jordan loves to celebrate birthdays and is known for stretching hers out to two weeks or more. This year, it’s a rather subdued celebration. We reluctantly cancelled a birthday luncheon Subie was to host yesterday, and the Bass Hall performance, featuring our church choir and an original composition, scheduled for tonight, has been rescheduled for September. Jordan was excited that she and Christian were going to take Jacob. I suppose they’ll go in September, but that’s cold compensation for a birthday night on the town.

Today, as far as I know, she floated through the day, doing whatever struck her, but all at home. Tonight they are welcoming a very few close friends to the front porch. I was invited, but I won’t go it—I am convinced the fewer people I see, the better. I understand I will eventually get dinner from that gathering, but it’s almost seven and I have fortified myself with pimiento cheese on Ritz crackers—and wine, of course.

Current dilemmas: can I have the dog groomer come to the house? I can just hand the leash out the door and spray it when I get it back. Poor Sophie hasn’t had a haircut since late January—how did I do that?—and she’s shaggy and smells a bit doggy. One good note: she jumped up on a chair today and on the couch at Jacob’s urging. I have been worried because she hasn’t slept in her favorite chairs since she developed the urinary tract infection. Vet thinks it’s unrelated, and she probably has some arthritis—oh swell, another pill to give her.

My other dilemma: I will get shaggy myself and need a haircut soon. Can I have my much-loved Rosa come to the house? I have infinite faith in her cleanliness—she’s a protective mom of two boys—but who knows whose hair she’s been cutting. Jordan’s advice about everything is wait two weeks.

My pet peeve on this fifth day of social distancing—really social isolation—is people who say they don’t want to stay home. They want to eat in restaurants and go out as they please. What in heaven’s name do they think is going on? One woman posted that Queen Elizabeth is still going about her subjects, and she wanted to be just like the Queen. I replied that is all well and good for the Queen, but does this woman not realize that by disregarding all the strong recommendations that come from national, state, and local officials, she is endangering all of us. I told her as an at-risk citizen, I resented her attitude, and three people backed me up. It’s one thing to  have to explain this to Jacob, but we should have to spell it out for adults.

And a puzzle: A few days ago I shared a post from The Atlantic titled “The Trump Presidency is Over.” I said in the comment that we can’t blame trump for the pandemic, but this was a balanced review of the subject and his handling of it. It’s been since shared several times by others. Tonight I get an email that it violates Facebook’s community standards and I have the option to withdraw it or be unable to tag others or something—it was a bit confusing. I withdrew it, figuring it had already had quite a nice audience, but it’s left me mulling over the prevailing feeling that Facebook is politically motivated in its censorship judgments. I have seen blatant outright lies from the right. I guess someone on the right objected, and that’s why they took action. Now I have to learn to protest untrue postings. I have a Facebook friend (never met him) who says he reported several today.

I said it last night, and I’ll say it again: nerves are fraught and tense these days, and one thing we all most do it maintain our emotional equilibrium.

Sweet dreams, my friends.

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