Showing posts with label #reminiscing. Show all posts
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Wednesday, February 23, 2022

Weather, podcasts, voting, and oh my goodness!

 



Doesn't look quite this bad this time--
but just wait

My first instinct is to say this was an average day, with not much going on in my little world. But in retrospect that is so wrong. The weather is the lead story, as far as I’m concerned. Have you ever been so cold? I shiver inside my well-heated cottage and worry about the people of Ukraine. It’s a demoralizing gray outside, and though it’s been cold all day and there’s a bit of ice, I understand it is to get worse tonight. It’s not only when they cancel school a day ahead, but when they cancel garbage pickup, you know you’re in trouble.

In this weather with icy roads, old friends from San Angelo arrived in the Metroplex, here for a meeting. Preston and Harriet Lewis came by for a visit this afternoon, and I was almost surprised to see them. I had thought they would change their minds about traveling, but they are brave. Preston said he was only worried about other drivers—a good caution in North Texas. I probably haven’t seen this couple for twenty-five years, but we were once all active in Western Writers of America (Preston and I are both past presidents). We had a high old time talking about people we knew back when, although sadly several are no longer with us. Still, we laughed a lot, and it was a good visit. Our friendship is also a great example of renewing old ties through Facebook, because that’s what we did. Preston has written some terrific westerns, including comic ones. And he told me today he is the world’s expert on cats on the western frontier. I told him everyone needs a niche.

The other highlight of my day was that a gentleman named Dean Jones interviewed me for his podcast, “The Well-Seasoned Librarian.” As a librarian, he is of course interested in books, but he is particularly interested in the food angle, so we had lots to talk about. I got all gussied up—clean hair, makeup, a good sweater—because the link was to Zoom, and I thought it would have video as well as audio. Not so. I could see him, but I couldn’t tell if he could see me or not. He asked great questions, and I had a chance to talk about everything from the transition from Chicago to Texas to retirement and my conviction that one retires from a job but never from writing. Dean promises a link when it’s up, and I will share that, should anyone be interested.

Moving on to voter suppression. It took me three, determined tries to get a mail-in ballot. Today I was told that my ballot was incomplete, and for it to count I must go in person to the voter registration office. When I explained that I am mobility challenged and don’t drive, they best they could offer was curbside service. (I worked hard to let the nice lady on the other end of the phone know that I was angry but not at her, and I hoped she had a pleasant day.) The hitch is a new requirement that you put either your DL number or the last four digits of your social security number on the outside of the envelope. The voice on the telephone assured me that when you seal the flap the information is hidden from public view. The problem is that the requirement is apparently in tiny print amidst all the print on those envelopes, and those of us who have filed by mail for years simply didn’t look at it. There has been no public campaign to alert voters. Wouldn’t you think if government—in this case Texas state government—wanted to encourage the vote they would mount a campaign about all the changes in ballot requirements? Instead they’ve snuck them in, in small type, and alerted no one. I only heard about it, after I mailed the ballot, on Facebook. Can you spell voter suppression? I have again talked to the independent newspaper that tells me they are still working on an article. And just for the record, I will register a complaint with the Texas secretary of state.

In other state news, Governor Abbott is practicing medicine again without a license. Wonder where he got his medical education? First he exercised his vast medical expertise (and apparent moral superiority) with a series of orders to physicians caring for women that absolute ignored the physical and mental consequences of exceptional pregnancies. Now he has ordered physicians to report to the department of child protective services (or whatever its proper name is) any case where parents are providing transgender healthcare to their children. It is, he says from on high, child abuse. His edict is awfully close to invasion of privacy. And he is more than ever a mean little man who seems to think he is a dictator.

A bright note on this wintry night: Christian made wonderful tortilla soup, and Jordan made chocolate chip cookies. When the going gets tough, you can count on Jordan for chocolate chip cookies. I’m so blessed.

Sunday, January 06, 2019

Reflective moments





My dinner companions

Dinner last night with two old and dear friends—both, like me, former doctors’ wives, one divorced, as I am, and one widowed. We talked of ex-husbands and good times and people we knew and now wonder about and those halcyon days when we thought we had the world on a strong. It’s been a long fifty years since we met, and our paths have diverged, but I am so grateful that we can still remember and laugh and mourn together—and toast our good fortune. The talk got me reflecting back on my life and marriage—when my husband left, I was devastated, afraid I could not raise four children on my own. But he gave me the greatest gift, besides giving me the four children. I found out I could do it and with some degree of success—they are all happy with good careers and families of their own, and I am so proud of them and so sorry he never shared in the joy of watching them mature and never was part of the “family” we became. And I am grateful that he freed me to pursue a career of my own, instead of focusing my life on being a doctor’s wife. I may not have hit the bestseller list or overseen publication of a work that shook the halls of academia, but it’s been a good and rewarding career.

Another reflective moment: Jacob was an acolyte at church today, probably his last stint in
that role. He’s aged out. Generally, children do it in fifth or sixth grade or through their twelfth year, which means he could do it until spring. But I think he’s done, so it was a bittersweet moment—and a different experience since the church was set up for the Boar’s Head Festival and he had to improvise a bit on the candle lighting and snuffing. In honor of the occasion, lots of pictures, including one with the senior minister. But I like the one with his grandmother best.


And tonight, a small gathering of people I care about for Twelfth Night. When I was a kid, my neighbor/adopted aunt always had a Twelfth Night ceremony whereby you threw a branch of the tree into the fire and made a wish. The kids and I have continued the tradition for years. With Jordan, it’s grown beyond family to something we share with others. She did her usual magic job of entertaining tonight, with a happy hour spread and plentiful wine. The night was slightly chilly but we all gathered around the fire pit to throw our greens and make our wishes and enjoy the warmth of the fire. Christian had gotten some pinion to burn with the firewood, and it smelled wonderful, even if smoke did get into our eyes and hair. One of those moments when I felt so blessed. And no, I’m not telling what my

wish was—that would ruin the whole thing.

Now I’m inside, hearing voice from Jordan, Christian, and a friend who lingered and seeing the flames. Next year we need Graham crackers and Hershey bars and marshmallows.